9 Ways To Avoid Becoming Bitter and Jaded As You Grow Older
Work on self-acceptance (getting in touch with your uniqueness, your needs, desires, flaws, humanness, etc.) as a first step in accepting yourself for who you are and who you want to be. This allows you to treat yourself like you would treat a treasured friend. But remember that this is a lifelong process with many twists and turns.
Self-forgiveness is essential in achieving joy and contentment in life. This usually happens in layers. You have come face-to-face with the mistakes, missteps, and foolhardy decisions of your past. Confronting the pain of these decisions enables you to move beyond them; to view them as lessons and opportunities to change and grow.
3. Make Obstacles Work For You
Sometimes our greatest obstacles can lead to our greatest blessings. Your thoughts determine you feelings and reactions. Learned on a gut level that most of the time people act the way they do for their own reasons which have nothing to do with you. You don’t have to take their misbehaviors personally. Another way of saying the same thing is “others don’t hurt me, I allow them to hurt me” which puts the responsibility back on you.
4. Attitude Is Everything
We all get one chance at life and it’s up to each one of us to choose how we live it. When faced with a crisis, we have a choice–we can dig deep down within ourselves and fight for all we’re worth, or, we give in, give up, play the victim role and allow ourselves to be beaten. Attitude is everything. If we think we can, we can. If we think we can’t, we can’t. Again, our self-talk determines our behaviors, choices and many times our outcomes. Know there are a lot of things in life we don’t have control over, but we do have control over how we respond to whatever life throws at us.
When we focus our thoughts and energies on all we have to be grateful for, there is little room for negative thinking. Again our thoughts determine our feelings, behaviors and outcomes.
6. Find Support
Develop your own support system. Choose to surround yourself with people who enhance your life and avoid those who sap your energy. Honor yourself and your needs by “learning to use ‘NO’ as a complete sentence.”
7. Nurture Your Soul
Find ways to nurture your own soul. Spirituality is a very personal issue, but finding meaning in our lives is very important. It does not have to, but this search for meaning can involve religious traditions. Family, friends, exercise, following your passions, exercise, reading, are some other ways to nurture your soul. The main point is that we each need to find what works for us just as we respect each others’ right to do the same.
8. Honor Yourself
Learn to stay still long enough to get to know what you need, and then honor yourself, and your needs, by carving out your own time and space to “follow your bliss.”
9. Hope Matters
And perhaps the most important: never, ever give up hope.
Asked by Anonymous
you a bitch
It’s called copula deletion, or zero copula. Many languages and dialects, including Ancient Greek and Russian, delete the copula (the verb to be) when the context is obvious.
So an utterance like “you a bitch” in AAVE is not an example of a misused you, but an example of a sentence that deletes the copular verb (are), which is a perfectly valid thing to do in that dialect, just as deleting an /r/ after a vowel is a perfectly valid thing to do in an upper-class British dialect.
can you remember who you were…
before the world told you who you should be?
officially no longer a chicago resident. #bittersweet
chicago is so alive. the city almost sucks you in sometimes. i’m happy to say i survived this city, and i loved it. (at Rogers Park, Chicago, IL, USA)
a real #throwbackthursday for ya.
i had mix cds for daysss!! lol #tbt #lostfiles #photooftheday #potd #iphonography #music #myjams #bestoftheday
"We don’t like pictures like this. It is not good to deduce an entire country to the image of a person reaching out for food. It is not good for people to see us like this, and it is not good for us to see ourselves like this. This gives us no dignity. We don’t want to be shown as a country of people waiting for someone to bring us food. Congo has an incredible amount of farmland. An incredible amount of resources. Yes, we have a lot of problems. But food is not what we are reaching for. We need investment. We need the means to develop ourselves."
(Kinshasa, Democratic Republic of Congo)
"A few years ago, I got a call on my cell phone from a twelve year old child from my village. He was calling me from a bus stop. He’d taken a bus into the city alone, and he was calling me to ask if I could help him find a way to go to school. Both of his parents had died of AIDS, and he had no money for tuition. I told him to stay where he was, and left work immediately to pick him up. At first I was very mad at him. He should not have travelled alone. But then I looked at him and I saw myself. I’d also been desperate to go to school after my father was killed, but we had no money. So even though I was suffering myself, I told him I would try to help him. My salary was not enough, so I tried many things to get the money. After work, I went to the landfill to hunt for recyclables. But after I paid to have them cleaned, there was no money left. Now I’m trying to make bricks. I have a small operation in the village to make bricks, and I sell them in the city. It doesn’t make much money, but it’s enough to pay tuition for the boy and three of his siblings.”
I asked the mother for a photo, but she said the decision was up to her son. So I asked the boy. He stood up, walked over, looked me up and down, and said: “Prove to me you’re not a terrorist.”
"Who’s the better player?"
"I am. He’s too scared to sacrifice his pieces. He hasn’t learned that sometimes you need to lose two to gain three."
"My mother and I did not have a good relationship, but we grew much closer after my daughter was born. Because I had no idea what I was doing. When the baby was born three months early, my mom slept at the hospital with her."
Lillian Weber, a 99-year-old good Samaritan from Iowa, has spent the last few years sewing a dress a day for the Little Dresses For Africa charity, a Christian organization that distributes dresses to children in need in Africa and elsewhere.
Weber’s goal is to make 1,000 dresses by the time she turns 100 on May 6th. So far, she’s made more than 840. Though she says she could make two a day, she only makes one – but each single dress she makes per day is personalized with careful stitchwork. She hopes that each little girl who receives her dress can take pride in her new garment.
Ralph Waldo Emerson